When Love Is A Lie Narcissistic Partners The Pathological Relationship Agenda
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[Now includes a 14-page excerpt from Zari Ballard's new book Stop Spinning, Start Breathing] When our committed relationship involves a narcissistic partner or someone with a narcissistic personality disorder, it is inevitable that the experience, at some point, will take a very dark turn. Pathological liars, chronic cheaters, and masters at passive-aggressive punishments (i.e. the silent treatment), narcissists follow a specific relationship agenda where every deceptive move is deliberately calculated to confuse and abuse the people who love them. And, as crazy as it appears, those who love the narcissist will stick it out, thinking they can fix this person or love them out of their bad behavior...but the truth is that neither is possible. Narcissists, psychopaths, and sociopaths can never be fixed - not with love, therapy, and not with any magic pill. I know...because I stumbled down this very path for twelve long years. Do the behaviors of your partner continually cause you to feel suspicious? Are you subjected to silent treatments and other forms of controlling punishments? Do you find yourself choosing to overlook these behaviors rather than face a confrontation? Does your partner appear to create chaos just to keep you feeling anxious and insecure? Are you obsessed with trying to figure it all out? Answering "yes" to any of the above indicates that you may be involved with a narcissistic partner...a person without a conscience...a pretender...someone who is manipulating your life to suit his own purpose. You may even feel an agonizing codependency - not only to the narcissist but to the drama itself - and this, too, is an intention of the narcissist's pathological relationship agenda. When Love Is a Lie is a personal, non-clinical narrative that exposes the typical manipulative behavioral patterns of narcissistic partners. Based on my own 12-year experience, this book deliberately offers no excuses for narcissism (medical or otherwise) nor does it encourage readers to cut a narcissistic partner any slack whatsoever. This book is about the reality of the situation, about why we become codependent to the drama, and, most importantly, what we can do about all of it to save our own lives. Learn how/why a lover or partner with a narcissistic personality... can never have - or even pretend to have - the love-worthy human qualities (the undeniable truths!) that make up the beauty of life. can - and probably has - deliberately and methodically managed down your relationship expectations so that you expect less and he gets away with more will use the Silent Treatment and similar demoralizing methods of control to punish those who dare to call him out on questionable behaviors will create chaos even during "good" times as a tactic for keeping you in a constant state of codependent anxiety will juggle many relationships at once and often for years with no one being the wiser...not even you lies even when the truth is a better story Realizing the truth about your narcissistic partner is never easy but it's not the end of the world. Use this book to separate yourself from the narcissistic drama once and for all. **Scroll to the top to order** **Click image at top to Look Inside this book**
"When Evil Is a Pretty Face" is a unique compilation of the best content from all three of Zari Ballard's three popular books on narcissism in relationships but with the gender references reversed and with special chapters added that specifically speak to a man's experience with a female narcissistic partner. Is your wife or girlfriend a pathological liar, a cheater, and someone who is nothing like the person you fell in love with? Does she accuse you incessantly of cheating even though her own stories and excuses never seem to add up? Does she blame you for everything wrong with the relationship and take accountability for nothing? Are you subjected to silent treatments, sudden disappearances, and cold shoulders for no reason at all and will she use "the power of the pussy" to manipulate you into taking her back? Answer yes to any of the above and it's likely your woman has a narcissistic personality disorder and that chaos and confusion has become the norm in your life. It's also likely that you've been unable to find support since much of the information available about narcissism focuses on the male narcissist/female sufferer dynamic as if the reverse never happens. Moreover, this lack of support is exacerbated by the fact that we live in a society that doesn't provide a whole lot of sympathy for male victims of anything - and the female narcissist knows this all too well. "Lacking a moral compass, a narcissist will stay in multiple relationships, diligently working to keep partners unsure or unaware of the existence of the others, for as long as she can and even after her crime has been discovered. The fact that she causes pain to others is the fuel to her fire. Narcissists live their lives via the proxy of their partner's suffering and via the "rules and requirements" of the narcissist's relationship agenda." - When Evil Is a Pretty Face, 2015 This book will tell you what you need to know about what is happening to you. It will explain why the female narcissists does what she does, says what she says, and how her twisted mind thinks relative to her pathological agenda. The truth is that the female narcissist has her male counterparts beat hands down in the evil department and because she's a female, she is allowed to live her life in a way that is above reproach. But there is one thing that all narcissists have in common and that is that they can never be fixed - not with love, therapy, or with any magic pill. No Contact is the only way to escape the relationship alive and this book will show you the way.
The narcissism handbook for suspecting partners Is your partner actually a narcissist or is he/she just a person behaving badly...and how can you tell? Learning to recognize the signs/behaviors of the narcissistic personality can prevent this type of emotional manipulation and abuse from ever happening to you at all OR the knowledge will give you the confidence to finally go "no contact" with the abuser you are involved with. Yet another amazingly intuitive book about narcissism in relationships from blogger/relationship consultant Zari Ballard (thenarcissisticpersonality.com), Narcissism in A Nutshell will quickly provide you with an answer to that all-too familiar nagging question: Is he or isn't he? Zari explains that this isn't rocket science...that the trick to determining whether a partner's behaviors are truly narcissistic is inremaining watchful of how these behaviors connect and relate to each other. These behaviors do not stand alone and if you make the mistake of thinking that they do, you will always lose. This narcissism handbook not only describes the thirteen most blatant characteristics of narcissism in a relationship, it also explains, very clearly, how all of the described behaviors seamlessly connect to form the pathological relationship agenda - an agenda by which the narcissist lives his/her life and by which you, if you choose to stay with this person, will live your life as well. In a nutshell, here is how a narcissist's mind-boggling behaviors connect from one to the other within this book: A narcissist's initial love-bombing (Chapter I) sets the stage for years of future-faking (Chapter III) much like the nefarious silent treatment (Chapter VI) succeeds due to the managing down of a partner's expectations (Chapter VIII) which will always involve the type of covert pathological lying (Chapter II) that, combined with cell phone games (Chapter V), the pain of triangulation (Chapter X), and projection tactics (Chapter XIII), will contribute to an overall confusion in the loving partner that allows a narcissist to get away with everything that he does. It's all about creating chaos (Chapter XII) and distraction(Chapter IX)! Seemingly separate at first, these passive-aggressive behaviors will always combine in such a way that there will be no doubt as to who this person really is. And those are just a FEW of the many ways that we can connect the dots within this book. It's easier than you think...all you have to do is know what you see. Don't ever be fooled by a narcissist again...Download this book today! Visit Zari's blog: thenarcissisticpersonality.com
Stop Spinning, Start Breathing - from the author of When Love Is a Lie The characteristics of a narcissistic personality and/or narcissistic partner are such that once we finally bridge a connection to our partner's behaviors, there's simply no denying that we've found the answer. In an instant, we recognize our story as identical to all the others and our partner as interchangeable with every narcissist and sociopath on the planet. But making the discovery that the person we love is a fake doesn't magically give us the ability to walk away or make our codependency any easier to handle. Sadly enough, we become addicted to the very drama that we hate. In essence, we become the suffering - but it doesn't have to be that way. You can learn to mentally break free from the emotional abuse caused by a narcissist partner. Recovery from narcissist abuse is about coping with the emotional collateral damage of what you've experienced..and this is where Stop Spinning, Start Breathing, as a recovery workbook, will have the biggest impact. Stop Spinning, Start Breathing, the follow-up/companion workbook to Zari Ballard's When Love Is a Lie, presents a journal-style recovery process that you, as a codependent victim, can begin at any time.....whether you're in the relationship or out of it, whether you're maintaining "no contact" or struggling with it, whether your being subjected to a narcissist's silent treatment... and even while the narcissist is hoovering to keep you in the loop. No one but you needs to be the wiser about your recovery. Finally, you can stop investigating the abuse and the narcissist because you already know the truth. Counteract the N's pathological agenda with an agenda of your own - to get better - and you can start right now from wherever you're at! The recovery exercises in this 3-part workbook will show/teach you... how putting the relationship in its proper perspective - as simple as it sounds - really does end the suffering once and for all how mismanaging our own memories creates a relationship amnesia that keeps us addicted long after the Discard (and how to fix it!) to use simple logic as a way to navigate the confusion of cognitive dissonance to understand why there is so much pain and why any relationship with a narcissist will always be different than all the others that facing your fears/anxieties about ending the relationship will help you to recognize what it is that you're really afraid of to look in retrospect on life before the narcissist and decide now who/where you'll be going forward how to actually appreciate the silence of a silent treatment and use this time wisely to jump-start the healing to recognize and protect your personal boundaries so that no one - and especially the narcissist - can ever cross them again how learning to live "in the moment" is the key to breaking codependency and emotional addiction to anything With this codependency recovery workbook, you will learn to make the right choices and to come to terms with your conflicting beliefs about the person that is hurting you. You can learn to manage the memories involving a narcissistic partner so that what you remember is the reality and not the fantasy. Once you allow yourself to get better, detaching from a narcissistic lover /partner occurs swiftly and with less sadness, erratic emotions stabilize, and life begins to make miraculous changes! **Scroll to the top to ORDER TODAY**Scroll to the top to "Look Inside" this book
Author : Mieke Polderman
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Is there interaction between love and work? If so, in what ways does it appear? The main incentive for this research is the notable increase of American and Dutch people who wish to spend more and more of their time working and who feel useless and robbed of their identity when separated from their jobs. It seems that work is considered more fulfilling and satisfying than love, which can be undermined by failing relationships, tension, depression, violence, addiction, crime or angry and unmanageable children. Whereas Proust described love in a milieu where most of the work was done by servants and artists, Freud was convinced that love and work were the two main pillars of society. This view has been echoed by psychologists, sociologists, philosophers and novelists. However, a new phenomenon is that men and women share love and work. Finding the right balance between the two is a hot topic in “how to” books, newspaper and magazine articles but the underlying connections have received little if any scrutiny. In fact it may well be a mission impossible since, as the Frankfurt School asserted, the capitalist powers, in search of profit, urge politicians to lure men, women and children onto the work floor by telling them work is a duty that not only will provide disposable income but also happiness and fulfillment in life. Hence people internalize this message without asking themselves why continuous consumption is more important than giving and receiving love, which they crave but seldom find. Although focusing on middle-class people between the ages of twenty five and forty who are travelling the “highway of life”, have paid jobs, a relationship of at least three years and children, this study should be of interest to everyone.