THE GASLIGHT EFFECT

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The Gaslight Effect

Author : Dr. Robin Stern
ISBN : 0767927826
Genre : Psychology
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Are You Being Gaslighted? Your husband crosses the line in his flirtations with another woman at a dinner party. When you confront him, he asks you to stop being insecure and controlling. After a long argument, you apologize for giving him a hard time. Your boss backed you on a project when you met privately in his office, and you went full steam ahead. But at a large gathering of staff—including yours—he suddenly changes his tune and publicly criticizes your poor judgment. When you tell him your concerns for how this will affect your authority, he tells you that the project was ill-conceived and you’ll have to be more careful in the future. You begin to question your competence. Your mother belittles your clothes, your job, your friends, and your boyfriend. But instead of fighting back as your friends encourage you to do, you tell them that your mother is often right and that a mature person should be able to take a little criticism. If you think things like this can’t happen to you, think again. Gaslighting is when someone wants you to do what you know you shouldn’t and to believe the unbelieveable. It can happen to you and it probably already has. How do we know? If you consider answering “yes” to even one of the following questions, you’ve probably been gaslighted: Does your opinion of yourself change according to approval or disapproval from your spouse? When your boss praises you, do you feel as if you could conquer the world? Do you dread having small things go wrong at home—buying the wrong brand of toothpaste, not having dinner ready on time, a mistaken appointment written on the calendar? Gaslighting is an insidious form of emotional abuse and manipulation that is difficult to recognize and even harder to break free from. That’s because it plays into one of our worst fears—of being abandoned—and many of our deepest needs: to be understood, appreciated, and loved. In this groundbreaking guide, the prominent therapist Dr. Robin Stern shows how the Gaslight Effect works and tells you how to: Turn up your Gaslight Radar, so you know when a relationship is headed for trouble Determine whether you are enabling a gaslighter Recognize the Three Stages of Gaslighting: Disbelief, Defense, and Depression Refuse to be gaslighted by using the Five Rules for Turning Off the Gas Develop your own “Gaslight Barometer” so you can decide which relationships can be saved—and which you have to walk away from Learn how to Gasproof Your Life so that you’ll never again choose another gaslighting relationship
Category: Psychology

Distributed Cognition And The Will

Author : Don Ross
ISBN : 9780262681698
Genre : Philosophy
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Recent scientific findings about human decision making would seem to threaten thetraditional concept of the individual conscious will. The will is threatened from "below"by the discovery that our apparently spontaneous actions are actually controlled and initiated frombelow the level of our conscious awareness, and from "above" by the recognition that weadapt our actions according to social dynamics of which we are seldom aware. In DistributedCognition and the Will, leading philosophers and behavioral scientists consider how much,if anything, of the traditional concept of the individual conscious will survives these discoveries,and they assess the implications for our sense of freedom and responsibility. The contributors alltake science seriously, and they are inspired by the idea that apparent threats to the cogency ofthe idea of will might instead become the basis of its reemergence as a scientific subject. Theyconsider macro-scale issues of society and culture, the micro-scale dynamics of the mind/brain, andconnections between macro-scale and micro-scale phenomena in the self-guidance and self-regulationof personal behavior. Contributors: George Ainslie, Wayne Christensen, Andy Clark,Paul Sheldon Davies, Daniel C. Dennett, Lawrence A. Lengbeyer, Dan Lloyd, Philip Pettit, Don Ross,Tamler Sommers, Betsy Sparrow, Mariam Thalos, Jeffrey B. Vancouver, Daniel M. Wegner, Tadeusz W.ZawidzkiDon Ross is Professor of Philosophy and Professor of Finance, Economics, and QuantitativeMethods at the University of Alabama at Birmingham and Professor of Economics at the University ofCape Town, South Africa. David Spurrett is Professor of Philosophy at the Howard College Campus ofthe University of KwaZulu-Natal, South Africa. Harold Kincaid is Professor and Chair of theDepartment of Philosophy and Director of the Center for Ethics and Values in the Sciences at theUniversity of Alabama at Birmingham. G. Lynn Stephens is Professor of Philosophy at the Universityof Alabama at Birmingham.
Category: Philosophy

Domestic Violence In Hollywood Film

Author : Diane L. Shoos
ISBN : 9783319650647
Genre : Social Science
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This is the first book to critically examine Hollywood films that focus on male partner violence against women. These films include Gaslight, Sleeping with the Enemy, What’s Love Got to Do with It, Dolores Claiborne, Enough, and Safe Haven. Shaped by the contexts of postfeminism, domestic abuse post-awareness, and familiar genre conventions, these films engage in ideological “gaslighting” that reaffirms our preconceived ideas about men as abusers, women as victims, and the racial and class politics of domestic violence. While the films purport to condemn abuse and empower abused women, this study proposes that they tacitly reinforce the very attitudes that we believe we no longer tolerate. Shoos argues that films like these limit not only popular understanding but also social and institutional interventions.
Category: Social Science

How Many Lies Are Too Many

Author : Victoria Summit
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Genre : Family & Relationships
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How many lies are too many? How many are you willing to take? Is there ever a good reason to lie to your lover? Are you involved with a married man or woman and he or she still hasn't left the spouse? Does your gut tell you that something doesn't seem quite right in your relationship? Are you accused of lying when you don't? Are you being accused of cheating when you haven't cheated? There are many reasons why people lie and many reasons why people let lies slip. How many lies are you willing to listen to before you call it quits?
Category: Family & Relationships

Gaslighting

Author : Dr Theresa J Covert
ISBN : 1082439371
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Still struggling from the effects of an abusive relationship? Many people do and sadly there is very little information available to be found online or in the written research, or with counsellors and therapists that can help. The Gaslight Effect is not officially recognised, nor is it widely even known. Even when it is accepted, recognised and known not many people seem to know what to DO ABOUT IT to heal it... The fact is being in a relationship with a narcissist over a long period of time has long lasting traumatic effects that can be extremely catastrophic to the person suffering them. DO THE FOLLOWING SYMPTOMS SOUND FAMILIAR? - Doubting yourself and your sanity - Feeling like you're losing your mind - Feeling like you're always apologizing - You're second-guessing your memory - Feeling like you aren't good enough - Feeling misunderstood - Feeling lonely - Ruined self confidence - Extreme weight loss or weight gain - Uncharacteristic jealousy/ insecurity - Feeling like you don't know the difference between right and wrong - Extreme paranoia (being turned into an obsessive detective) - Endless, repetitive obsessive thinking about your ex - Constantly trying to find explanations for what has happened - Feelings of helplessness and despair - A desire to self isolate - Feeling desperately misunderstood - Overwhelming feelings of loss and grief - Extreme bouts of rage - An inability to be comfortable with yourself - Strange dreams - Sudden inexplicable anxiety followed by rapid dips into depression The list goes on.... "NOBODY UNDERSTANDS!" I hear this frustrated cry from abused people a lot. Gaslighting is a covert aggressive way of distorting another person's perception of reality to the point that that person questions their sanity or their memory. Gaslighting is crazy-making, it makes you think that you're actually going crazy. Gaslighting is a way of hiding the abuse. Gaslighting is lying with a goal. The motive behind the gaslighting is to make you think that you're crazy or that your memory doesn't work right. So you can't trust yourself and your perceptions of reality. This means you'll defer to the abuser for an account of what's real so slowly over time the abuser becomes the authority over your life. Gaslighting takes place in relationships, like one-on-one relationships. It takes place in friendships, in family, in work, you'll see gaslighting on the news, you'll hear gaslighting coming from politicians, corporate shills, cult leaders, advertising commercials, etc. WHAT YOU WILL LEARN: - Top 10 Signs You're Being Manipulated with Gaslighting - 80 Things Narcissists Say During Gaslighting - Six Empowering Ways to Disarm a Narcissist and Take Control - How to Avoid Mental Manipulation - How to Deal with the Effects of Gaslighting - How Narcissists Employ Smart Devices WHAT YOU NEED NOW: - Someone who has been through the same experiences you have and understands them from the inside. -Someone who has the knowledge, training, education and experience working on himself and others to lead you through the emotional sh*tstorm that breaking with a narcissist can create. I can't promise you that reading to this book is going to be a "total cure", but I can promise that if you APPLY YOURSELF DILLIGENTLY, take notes, read and re-read the chapters, follow all instructions to the letter, with a tenacious resolve to get better you will feel an instant decrease in anxiety within the first 24 hours and should see huge improvements within the first 3 days. This is not hype, this is what my audience commonly report Buy the Paperback version and get the Kindle Book versions for FREE W
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Fallen From Grace

Author : Kimberly Marasco
ISBN : 1977201245
Genre : Biography & Autobiography
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This is my true story about dealing with adversity in some work environments. Everything was going well until I began working in the sales industry. I kept falling into spider traps where I confronted a lot of animosity. I am not claiming I am perfect, I am far from that. However, it did not matter if I ever did well because I received a stigma I could not escape. It is my belief that I received harsher treatment for being different. The negative stress greatly weakened my immune system and I fell ill with a rare and debilitating illness called vestibular neuritis. I could not work or do much of anything for four long, grueling months. Everything was crashing down on me at once. However, it was during this gloomy time when I was sick and feeling isolated and alone, that I found a light which showed me the way out and I gained back my strength and set new goals. I decided I wasn't going to allow the illness triggered by stress to control me, and I took control of it. I discuss what I did to get better and how I no longer fear retaliation. I have a new focus on things I enjoy, including the publication of this book. Furthermore, it is my hope that this book will bring to light sensitive issues that have remained in the dark for too long, as well as encourage some change for the betterment of society.
Category: Biography & Autobiography

The Gender Bias Prevention Book

Author : Montana Katz
ISBN : 1568218435
Genre : Social Science
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Meet Emily. Her early years are dominated by the soft color pink. On television, most of the cartoon characters she sees, particularly the active ones, are male. As she grows up in her average American, two-career home, child care and household labor are a female province and her mother, unlike her father, spends hours attending to her own physical appearance. By the age of seven, Emily has a sense that her life roles are defined by her gender and that much of her future worth depends on her looks. In college, professors invite her - and not her male peers - to continue office hour discussions over coffee. Later, job interviews conducted by men include questions about her love life and her plans for marriage and child care. Emily has become the American woman - blessed with equal opportunities but not genuine freedom. Dr. Montana Katz takes readers on a journey of this average girl's development from childhood through womanhood, showing them how to recognize and manage gender limitations and, more important, how to raise daughters who will not be limited by society's socialization of them.
Category: Social Science

The Gaslight Dogs

Author : Karin Lowachee
ISBN : 9780316088473
Genre : Fiction
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At the edge of the known world, an ancient nomadic tribe faces a new enemy-an Empire fueled by technology and war. A young spiritwalker of the Aniw and a captain in the Ciracusan army find themselves unexpectedly thrown together. The Aniw girl, taken prisoner from her people, must teach the reluctant soldier a forbidden talent - one that may turn the tide of the war and will surely forever brand him an outcast. From the rippling curtains of light in an Arctic sky, to the gaslit cobbled streets of the city, war is coming to the frozen north. Two people have a choice that will decide the fates of nations - and may cast them into a darkness that threatens to bring destruction to both their peoples.
Category: Fiction

State Of Confusion

Author : Bryant Welch
ISBN : 0312373066
Genre : Political Science
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Finally, the answer to the many questions that have been preying on the minds of millions of Americans has arrived. Why are Americans so vulnerable to divisive political tactics? Why did Americans get dragged into such an unwise war in Iraq? Why do fundamentalist religious groups, Fox News, and right-wing radio still play such influential roles in America’s political landscape? And why are long-accepted rational scientific ideas like evolution under siege? These questions hold America’s future in the balance. Ultimately, they are questions about the American mind. Psychologist-attorney Dr. Bryant Welch has the answers. If America is going to change the mind-set that led us to war in Iraq and left us unable to confront our serious national problems, this book is vitally important. Drawing on his unique experience both as a clinical psychologist and a Washington, D.C., political figure with the American Psychological Association, Dr. Welch shows how the long-term effects of sophisticated new forms of political manipulation have not only led to our debacle in Iraq but are also currently undercutting America’s ability to address its very serious problems. In the 1944 movie Gaslight, a husband drives his wife to the brink of insanity by playing games with her sense of reality. Just as in the movie, America’s most recent political “gaslighters,” such as George W. Bush, Karl Rove, Rush Limbaugh, Ann Coulter, and many religious leaders, have generated and exploited confusion in the minds of countless Americans. Gaslighters prey on their victim’s vulnerability to paranoia, sexual perplexity, and envy to undermine the mind’s ability to function rationally. Welch examines why millions of Americans, in response to such assaults, subconsciously and dangerously create their own simplistic reality, even if it is completely different from the more complex reality of the world. Most important, State of Confusion explains how and why Americans must act now to fight back against this harmful manipulation before it’s too late. Dr. Welch’s exploration of the American mind is both fascinating and frightening, and State of Confusion is a must-read for everyone who cares about the future of this great country.
Category: Political Science