MEAN MOTHERS OVERCOMING THE LEGACY OF HURT

Download Mean Mothers Overcoming The Legacy Of Hurt ebook PDF or Read Online books in PDF, EPUB, and Mobi Format. Click Download or Read Online button to MEAN MOTHERS OVERCOMING THE LEGACY OF HURT book pdf for free now.

Mean Mothers

Author : Peg Streep
ISBN : 9780061943195
Genre : Family & Relationships
File Size : 74.28 MB
Format : PDF, Mobi
Download : 592
Read : 568

Drawn from research and the real-life experiences of adult daughters, Mean Mothers illuminates one of the last cultural taboos: what happens when a woman does not or cannot love her own daughter. Peg Streep, co-author of the highly acclaimed Girl in the Mirror, has subtitled this important, eye-opening exploration of the darker side of maternal behavior, “Overcoming the Legacy of Hurt.” There are no psychopathic child abusers in Mean Mothers. Instead, this essential volume focuses on the more subtle forms of psychological damage inflicted by mothers on their unappreciated daughters—and offers help and support to those women who were forced to suffer a parent’s cruelty and neglect.
Category: Family & Relationships

Daughter Detox

Author : Peg Streep
ISBN : 0692973974
Genre : Mothers and daughters
File Size : 40.88 MB
Format : PDF, Kindle
Download : 583
Read : 619

A self-help book based in science, the result of more than a decade of research, Daughter Detox offers the daughters of unloving mothers vital information, guidance, and real strategies for healing from childhood experiences, and building genuine self-esteem. Writer Peg Streep lays out seven distinct but interconnected stages on the path to reclaim your life from the effects of a toxic childhood: DISCOVERY, DISCERNMENT, DISTNGUISH, DISARM, RECLAIM, REDIRECT, and RECOVER. Each step is clearly explained, and richly detailed with the stories of other women, approaches drawn from psychology and other disciplines, and unique exercises. The book will help the reader tackle her own self-doubt and become consciously aware of how her mother's treatment continues to shape her behavior, even today. The message of the book is direct: What you experienced in childhood need not continue to hold you back in life. What was learned can be unlearned with effort. The book begins with DISCOVERY, opening up the reader's understanding of how she has been wounded and influenced by her mother's treatment. Recognizing the eight toxic maternal behaviors-dismissive, controlling, emotionally unavailable, unreliable, self-involved or narcissistic, combative, enmeshed, or role-reversed-lays the foundation for the daughter's awareness of how her way of looking at the world, connecting to others, and ability to manage stress were affected. DISCERNMENT delves into the patterns of relationship in her family of origin and how they played a part in her development, and then shifts to looking closely at how the daughter adapted to her treatment, either silencing or losing her true self in the process. Next up is DISTINGUISH, seeing how the behavioral patterns we learned in childhood animate all of our relationships in the present with lovers and spouses, relatives, friends, neighbors, and colleagues. The act of distinguishing allows us to see why so many of us end up in unsatisfying relationships, chose the wrong partners, or are unable to develop close friendships. Active recovery begins with DISARM as the daughter learns how to disconnect unconscious patterns of reaction and behavior and substitute actions that will foster the growth of self-esteem. Understanding the triggers that set us off, the cues that put us on the defensive, and the default positions of blaming ourselves and making excuses for other people's toxic behavior are addressed, as are unhealthy behaviors such as rumination, rejection sensitivity, and more. RECLAIM is the stage at which the reader begins to actively make new choices, preparing herself so that she can live the life she desires by seeing herself as having agency and being empowered. Making new choices and figuring out how to manage her relationship to her unloving or toxic mother is the focus of REDIRECT. There are stories to inspire and challenge your thinking, exercises that show you how to swap out self-criticism for self-compassion, guidance on how to use journaling as a tool of self-discovery and growth, and advice on goal setting.Finally, RECOVER challenges the reader to come up with a new definition of what it means to heal, suggests tools to overcome the obstacles she places in her own way, and strategies to become the best, most authentic version of herself.
Category: Mothers and daughters

Difficult Mothers Understanding And Overcoming Their Power

Author : Terri Apter
ISBN : 9780393083927
Genre : Family & Relationships
File Size : 72.9 MB
Format : PDF
Download : 340
Read : 380

An essential work for readers seeking compassionate, wise guidance about the powerful relationship between mothers and their sons and daughters. Mother love is often seen as sacred, but for many children the relationship is a painful struggle. Using the newest research on human attachment and brain development, Terri Apter, an internationally acclaimed psychologist and writer, unlocks the mysteries of this complicated bond. She showcases the five different types of difficult mother—the angry mother, the controlling mother, the narcissistic mother, the envious mother, and the emotionally neglectful mother—and explains the patterns of behavior seen in each type. Apter also explores the dilemma at the heart of a difficult relationship: why a mother has such a powerful impact on us and why we continue to care about her responses long after we have outgrown our dependence. She then shows how we can conduct an “emotional audit” on ourselves to overcome the power of the complex feelings a difficult mother inflicts. In the end this book celebrates the great resilience of sons and daughters of difficult mothers as well as acknowledging their special challenges.
Category: Family & Relationships

The Emotionally Absent Mother Updated And Expanded Second Edition

Author : Jasmin Lee Cori
ISBN : 9781615193837
Genre : Family & Relationships
File Size : 72.73 MB
Format : PDF, Mobi
Download : 187
Read : 868

The groundbreaking guide to self-healing and getting the love you missed. Was your mother preoccupied, distant, or even demeaning? Have you struggled with relationships—or with your own self-worth? Often, the grown children of emotionally absent mothers can’t quite put a finger on what’s missing from their lives. The children of abusive mothers, by contrast, may recognize the abuse—but overlook its lasting, harmful effects. Psychotherapist Jasmin Lee Cori has helped thousands of men and women heal the hidden wounds left by every kind of undermothering. In this second edition of her pioneering book, with compassion for mother and child alike, she explains: Possible reasons your mother was distracted or hurtful—and what she was unable to give The lasting impact of childhood emotional neglect and abuse How to find the child inside you and fill the “mother gap” through reflections and exercises How to secure a happier future for yourself (and perhaps for your children)
Category: Family & Relationships

The Daughter Detox Guided Journal And Workbook

Author : Peg Streep
ISBN : 0692079556
Genre :
File Size : 76.36 MB
Format : PDF, Docs
Download : 653
Read : 358

A companion volume to the well-received Daughter Detox: Recovering from an Unloving Mother and Reclaiming Your life, this 200-page book will support your efforts at healing and recovery through unique and specially crafted exercises and prompted journal pages designed to clarify your thinking and enable you to see how your childhood experiences affect you in the here and now. The Daughter Detox Guided Journal and Workbook will permit you to explore your thoughts and feelings without feeling the pressure that a traditional journal with its blank pages often induces.The Guided Journal and Workbook follows the same seven stages of healing as Daughter Detox but in a much more active and participatory manner; this is a book in which reading is less important than activity. In each of the sections of the Workbook-DISCOVER, DISCERN, DISTINGUISH, DISARM, RECLAIM, REDIRECT, RECOVER-you will encounter a progressive series of exercises, each of which will push you closer to understanding by making the unconscious conscious and motivate you to start changing the behaviors that are getting in the way of your happiness and fulfillment. Among the skills the exercises and journal entries are meant to bolster and grow are:* Seeing yourself with clarity, and not as others have defined you* Listening and paying attention to your inner thoughts* Strengthening and expanding your emotional intelligence* Becoming better at articulating your needs in a relationship* Choosing relationships that work for you and enrich your life* Using visualization to calm yourself in times of stress* Getting in touch with the signals your body is sending you* Curbing your reactivity and managing your emotions productively
Category:

Shadow Daughter

Author : Harriet Brown
ISBN : 9780738234540
Genre : Biography & Autobiography
File Size : 23.25 MB
Format : PDF, ePub, Docs
Download : 196
Read : 964

A riveting, provocative, and ultimately hopeful exploration of mother-daughter estrangement, woven with research and anecdotes, from an award-winning journalist. The day of her mother's funeral, Harriet Brown was five thousand miles away. For years they'd gone through cycles of estrangement and connection, drastic blow-ups and equally dramatic reconciliations. By the time her mother died at seventy-six, they hadn't spoken at all in several years. Her mother's death sent Brown on a journey of exploration, one that considered guilt and trauma, rage and betrayal, and forgiveness. Shadow Daughter tackles a subject we rarely discuss as a culture. Family estrangements -- between parents and children, siblings, multiple generations -- are surprisingly common, and even families that aren't officially estranged often have some experience of deep conflicts. Despite the fact that the issue touches most people one way or another, estrangement is still shrouded in secrecy, stigma, and shame. We simply don't talk about it, and that silence can make an already difficult situation even harder. Brown tells her story with clear-eyed honesty and hard-won wisdom; she also shared interviews with others who are estranged, as well as the most recent research on this taboo topic. Ultimately, Shadow Daughter is a thoughtful, provocative, and deeply researched exploration of the ties that bind and break, forgiveness, reconciliation, and what family really means.
Category: Biography & Autobiography

The Self Under Siege

Author : Robert Firestone
ISBN : 9780415520331
Genre : Psychology
File Size : 33.91 MB
Format : PDF, ePub
Download : 941
Read : 447

"This book will provide therapists with the tools necessary to help their clients differentiate themselves from their parents, families of origin, and other influences that have unconsciously dominated and predetermined their lives. The authors argue that most of us are unaware of the extent to which our lives have been predetermined and pre-empted by a parent whose thoughts, beliefs, and feelings can actually be antagonistic to our own goals and desires. An integrative theoretical approach to personality development and human behavior is introduced, providing the foundation for an innovative cognitive-affective-behavioral therapeutic process centered around Firestone's Voice Therapy technique"--
Category: Psychology

One Foot In Front Of The Other

Author : Tian Dayton
ISBN : 9780757317897
Genre : Self-Help
File Size : 61.25 MB
Format : PDF, ePub, Docs
Download : 286
Read : 530

Recovery—whether from addictive or compulsive behaviors, codependency, childhood trauma, dysfunction or loss—is not an event to be conquered, but an ongoing process of healing and self-discovery. It requires patience, perseverance, and self-awareness. Putting one foot in front of the other, moment-by-moment and day-by-day, builds courage, self-esteem, and resilience. A key component of staying on the right path is guidance from those who have walked it before. One Foot in Front of the Other gives readers a hand to hold as they face the challenges of living and provides a wellspring of knowledge from which to draw inspiration, and hope. Nationally renowned trauma and recovery expert Dr. Tian Dayton gives readers all the tools they will need on their journey of recovery, just as she has for countless of her own patients. Written in the 'I' format, each page speaks intimately to readers, offering straightforward and user-friendly wisdom through inspired readings. This powerful little book will help readers examine their lives and recapture feelings of gratitude and positivity opening to the grace of self-renewal.
Category: Self-Help

I Don T Want To Talk About It

Author : Terrence Real
ISBN : 0684865394
Genre : Self-Help
File Size : 69.26 MB
Format : PDF
Download : 645
Read : 705

A revolutionary and hopeful look at depression as a silent epidemic in men that manifests as workaholism, alcoholism, rage, difficulty with intimacy, and abusive behavior by the cofounder of Harvard’s Gender Research Project. Twenty years of experience treating men and their families has convinced psychotherapist Terrence Real that depression is a silent epidemic in men—that men hide their condition from family, friends, and themselves to avoid the stigma of depression’s “un-manliness.” Problems that we think of as typically male—difficulty with intimacy, workaholism, alcoholism, abusive behavior, and rage—are really attempts to escape depression. And these escape attempts only hurt the people men love and pass their condition on to their children. This groundbreaking book is the “pathway out of darkness” that these men and their families seek. Real reveals how men can unearth their pain, heal themselves, restore relationships, and break the legacy of abuse. He mixes penetrating analysis with compelling tales of his patients and even his own experiences with depression as the son of a violent, depressed father and the father of two young sons.
Category: Self-Help

I Thought You Had A Bigger Dream

Author : Penny Robichaux-Koontz
ISBN : 9781617773877
Genre : Biography & Autobiography
File Size : 75.54 MB
Format : PDF
Download : 666
Read : 1125

The biography of the founder of Jacob's House at Thunder Ranch, a private placement children's home, who was diagnosed with polio as a child.
Category: Biography & Autobiography