Difficult Mothers Understanding And Overcoming Their Power

Author : Terri Apter
ISBN : 9780393083927
Genre : Family & Relationships
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An essential work for readers seeking compassionate, wise guidance about the powerful relationship between mothers and their sons and daughters. Mother love is often seen as sacred, but for many children the relationship is a painful struggle. Using the newest research on human attachment and brain development, Terri Apter, an internationally acclaimed psychologist and writer, unlocks the mysteries of this complicated bond. She showcases the five different types of difficult mother—the angry mother, the controlling mother, the narcissistic mother, the envious mother, and the emotionally neglectful mother—and explains the patterns of behavior seen in each type. Apter also explores the dilemma at the heart of a difficult relationship: why a mother has such a powerful impact on us and why we continue to care about her responses long after we have outgrown our dependence. She then shows how we can conduct an “emotional audit” on ourselves to overcome the power of the complex feelings a difficult mother inflicts. In the end this book celebrates the great resilience of sons and daughters of difficult mothers as well as acknowledging their special challenges.
Category: Family & Relationships

Difficult Mothers Understanding And Overcoming Their Power

Author : Terri Apter
ISBN : 9780393081022
Genre : Family & Relationships
File Size : 38.93 MB
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Describes the five different types of difficult mothers, explains how adults can still suffer from negative relationships with their mothers, and how people can overcome the challenges of their complex feelings.
Category: Family & Relationships

When You And Your Mother Can T Be Friends

Author : Victoria Secunda
ISBN : 9780307431301
Genre : Psychology
File Size : 61.20 MB
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This, the first book ever to say that mother is not always a girl's best friend, is based on a landmark study of the mother-daughter relationships. Secunda offers breakthrough advice on understanding, and improving, what could be a woman's most critical relationship.
Category: Psychology

Toxic Parents

Author : Susan Forward
ISBN : 9781407057002
Genre : Family & Relationships
File Size : 80.4 MB
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Millions of lives are damaged by the legacy of parental abuse. Parents who ignored their children's needs or overburdened them with guilt. Parents who were alcoholic or addicted to drugs. Parents who were exploitative and cruel, or simply indifferent and inadequate. When these children reach adulthood the damage done by their toxic parents manifests itself in depression, or difficulties with relationships, careers and decision-making. This landmark book, by bestselling author and psychologist Dr Susan Forward, confronts this painful legacy and shows why it is so difficult to put the past behind you. She offers effective alternatives for achieving inner peace and for freeing yourself from the frustrating patterns of your relationships with your parents. Filled with vivid case histories and testimony from adult children of toxic parents, this remarkable book also offers the self-help techniques Dr Forward has developed to change the lives of her patients. With this book as your guide, you will discover an exciting new world of self-confidence, inner strength and emotional independence.
Category: Family & Relationships

Mean Mothers

Author : Peg Streep
ISBN : 9780061943195
Genre : Family & Relationships
File Size : 74.73 MB
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Drawn from research and the real-life experiences of adult daughters, Mean Mothers illuminates one of the last cultural taboos: what happens when a woman does not or cannot love her own daughter. Peg Streep, co-author of the highly acclaimed Girl in the Mirror, has subtitled this important, eye-opening exploration of the darker side of maternal behavior, “Overcoming the Legacy of Hurt.” There are no psychopathic child abusers in Mean Mothers. Instead, this essential volume focuses on the more subtle forms of psychological damage inflicted by mothers on their unappreciated daughters—and offers help and support to those women who were forced to suffer a parent’s cruelty and neglect.
Category: Family & Relationships

You Re Not Crazy It S Your Mother

Author : Danu Morrigan
ISBN : 0232529299
Genre : Mother and infant
File Size : 64.6 MB
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Do you find yourself feeling emotionally bruised, upset and confused after being in contact with your mother?Are you left doubting yourself – feeling crazy - as she remembers some incidents totally differently to how you remember them, and denies other events even happened at all?Do you somehow feel like you’re not a real person in her company? Does it seem that she gets cross, angry or upset when good things happen in your life?And does she seem happy and energised if you have a trauma or crisis?But maybe that’s your imagination, you tell yourself, because of course your own mother isn’t going to be glad when you suffer, right?And round and round go your feelings and emotions and half-formed thoughts, till you think you must truly be crazy. And still you end up emotionally bruised and confused and hurt. If this resonates with you, it is possible that your mother has Narcissistic Personality Disorder.You're Not Crazy - It's Your Mother explains what that it is, and what it means to you in your life. It will help you to undertake a journey of recognition and recovery: of moving on, healing, and claiming your own self as the wonderful, vibrant woman you really are.
Category: Mother and infant

Understanding The Borderline Mother

Author : Christine Ann Lawson
ISBN : 9780765703316
Genre : Psychology
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The first love in our lives is our mother. Recognizing her face, her voice, the meaning of her moods, and her facial expressions is crucial to survival. Dr. Christine Ann Lawson vividly describes how mothers who suffer from borderline personality disorder produce children who may flounder in life even as adults, futilely struggling to reach the safety of a parental harbor, unable to recognize that their borderline parent lacks a pier, or even a discernible shore. Four character profiles describe different symptom clusters that include the waif mother, the hermit mother, the queen mother, and the witch. Children of borderlines are at risk for developing this complex and devastating personality disorder themselves. Dr. Lawson's recommendations for prevention include empathic understanding of the borderline mother and early intervention with her children to ground them in reality and counteract the often dangerous effects of living with a "make-believe" mother. Some readers may recognize their mothers as well as themselves in this book. They will also find specific suggestions for creating healthier relationships. Addressing the adult children of borderlines and the therapists who work with them, Dr. Lawson shows how to care for the waif without rescuing her, to attend to the hermit without feeding her fear, to love the queen without becoming her subject, and to live with the witch without becoming her victim. A Jason Aronson Book
Category: Psychology

Cutting Loose

Author : Howard Halpern
ISBN : 1439123748
Genre : Psychology
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With more than thirty-five years of experience in psychotherapy, Dr. Halpern enables the adult child to understand his or her parent and foster a positive, healthy adult relationship. In all respects, you appear to be well-adjusted, reasonably successful adult, but in the presence of your parents, you feel vulnerable, dependent, guilty, insecure—childlike. They manipulate you, smother you, demand your attention or elicit your resentment. In clear, nonclinical terms, renowned psychotherapist Dr. Howard Halpern shows you how to break these familiar family routines so that you can build healthy, rewarding parent-child relationships. He teaches you, for example, how to handle martyred mothers, despotic fathers, and moralistic, unloving, or seductive parents. He also addresses the sensitive topics of how to deal with aging, divorced, or dying parents. Resolving conflicts with your parents will enable you, finally, to cut loose—to start being yourself rather than your parent's child. Without guilt, revenge, or fear as your motives, you will be able to make the choices in love, work, and values that do justice to who you are. With more than thirty-five years of experience in psychotherapy, Dr. Halpern enables the adult child to understand his or her parent and foster a positive, healthy adult relationship.
Category: Psychology

Mothers Who Can T Love

Author : Susan Forward
ISBN : 9780062204356
Genre : Self-Help
File Size : 34.45 MB
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With Mothers Who Can't Love: A Healing Guide for Daughters, Susan Forward, Ph.D., author of the smash #1 bestseller Toxic Parents, offers a powerful look at the devastating impact unloving mothers have on their daughters—and provides clear, effective techniques for overcoming that painful legacy. In more than 35 years as a therapist, Forward has worked with large numbers of women struggling to escape the emotional damage inflicted by the women who raised them. Subjected to years of criticism, competition, role-reversal, smothering control, emotional neglect and abuse, these women are plagued by anxiety and depression, relationship problems, lack of confidence and difficulties with trust. They doubt their worth, and even their ability to love. Forward examines the Narcissistic Mother, the Competitive Mother, the Overly Enmeshed mother, the Control Freak, Mothers who need Mothering, and mothers who abuse or fail to protect their daughters from abuse. Filled with compelling case histories, Mothers Who Can’t Love outlines the self-help techniques Forward has developed to transform the lives of her clients, showing women how to overcome the pain of childhood and how to act in their own best interests. Warm and compassionate, Mothers Who Can’t Love offers daughters the emotional support and tools they need to heal themselves and rebuild their confidence and self-respect.
Category: Self-Help

Outgrowing The Pain

Author : Eliana Gil
ISBN : 9780307422453
Genre : Self-Help
File Size : 65.94 MB
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This much-needed book pinpoints the typical problems abused children experience when they become adults. The information is presented in a friendly and thorough manner for victims and professionals. From the Trade Paperback edition.
Category: Self-Help