A Bittersweet Season

Author : Jane Gross
ISBN : 9780307596680
Genre : Family & Relationships
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Just a few of the vitally important lessons in caring for your aging parent—and yourself—from Jane Gross in A Bittersweet Season As painful as the role reversal between parent and child may be for you, assume it is worse for your mother or father, so take care not to demean or humiliate them. Avoid hospitals and emergency rooms, as well as multiple relocations from home to assisted living facility to nursing home, since all can cause dramatic declines in physical and cognitive well-being among the aged. Do not accept the canard that no decent child sends a parent to a nursing home. Good nursing home care, which supports the entire family, can be vastly superior to the pretty trappings but thin staffing of assisted living or the solitude of being at home, even with round-the-clock help. Important Facts Every state has its own laws, eligibility standards, and licensing requirements for financial, legal, residential, and other matters that affect the elderly, including qualification for Medicare. Assume anything you understand in the state where your parents once lived no longer applies if they move. Many doctors will not accept new Medicare patients, nor are they legally required to do so, especially significant if a parent is moving a long distance to be near family in old age. An adult child with power of attorney can use a parent’s money for legitimate expenses and thus hasten the spend-down to Medicaid eligibility. In other words, you are doing your parent no favor—assuming he or she is likely to exhaust personal financial resources—by paying rent, stocking the refrigerator, buying clothes, or taking him or her to the hairdresser or barber. From the Hardcover edition.
Category: Family & Relationships

Im Land Der Leeren H User

Author : P. D. James
ISBN : 9783426404737
Genre : Fiction
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Ein Polit-Thriller, der im England des Jahres 2021 spielt. Große Teile der Insel sind von Wald bedeckt, viele Straßen von Gras überwuchert. Wie überall auf der Welt haben die Menschen ihre Fortpflanzungsfähigkeit verloren. Unter der Regierungsherrschaft eines Despoten scheint Ordnung zu herrschen, aufrechterhalten allerdings durch eine allgegenwärtige Geheimpolizei. Bespitzelungen und Einweisungen in Straflager gehören zum Alltag. Aber es existiert eine kleine Dissidentengruppe, die sich gegen das brutale Regime auflehnt ... Im land der leeren Häuser von P.D. James: packender Thriller im eBook!
Category: Fiction

Sweetbitter

Author : Stephanie Danler
ISBN : 9783841212887
Genre : Fiction
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„›Sweetbitter‹ wird eine Menge Leute hungrig machen.“ The New York Times Eigentlich wollte Tess nicht Kellnerin werden. Sie wollte ihrer provinziellen Herkunft entkommen, in die Großstadt eintauchen und endlich herausfinden, wofür sie geschaffen ist. Doch dann landet sie in einem edlen New Yorker Restaurant und es ist wie der Eintritt in ein neues Universum, in dem ganz eigene Regeln und Gesetze herrschen, in dem der falsche Wein im falschen Moment zum Verhängnis werden kann. Oder die Ignoranz gegenüber der Einzigartigkeit einer Auster. Sweetbitter ist ein großer Roman über den Genuss und die Obsession – darüber, dass man manchmal besessen sein muss, um wirklich genießen zu können. „Eine rohe, schnörkellose, beißende, wilde Liebesgeschichte.“ People Magazine
Category: Fiction

Take My Hand Again

Author : Brummett, Nancy Parker
ISBN : 9780825443718
Genre : Family & Relationships
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The guide the author wishes she had when she took on a caretaker role.
By 2020, the senior population in this country will number over 115 million. Despite this persistent “graying” of America, few adult children feel prepared to take on the role of caregiver for aging parents. Those who discover they must now intervene and care for an elder they love are often at a loss. Trying to navigate the transition is like being dropped in a foreign country with no map, no GPS, and no translator—and acting as tour guide.
Nancy Parker Brummett knows what they’re going through and has the means to help. She shares her own experience of caring for a mother and mother-in-law in assisted living, as well as lessons learned through study of the academic, social, and political issues involved. Each chapter begins with relevant Scripture, but the useful information here is not limited to people of faith.
Take My Hand Again offers readers the warm feeling of having someone they trust stepping up to hold their hand and share encouragement and hope. Children of the aging don’t need a degree in gerontology; they just need for someone to ask the pertinent questions and give them an overview of the pros and cons of common options so they can make informed decisions. Whether they’ve already had their wake-up call or just want to be prepared for what’s to come, Brummett’s sometimes humorous, sometimes poignant book has just what they’re looking for.
Category: Family & Relationships

The Alzheimer S Diary

Author : Joan Sutton
ISBN : 9781491731635
Genre : Family & Relationships
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One who Forgets and One who is Forgotten One in eight over the age of sixty-five and one in three over the age of eighty will be diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease. In her memoir, author Joan Sutton narrates a moving account of her years as caregiver to her husband, noting that “Alzheimer’s is a disease of the brain that is paid for with the currency of the heart.” A member of the board of overseers of The Alzheimer’s Drug Discovery Foundation, she stresses the need to develop more effective treatment for the five million Americans currently diagnosed with this incurable disease, pointing out that for every patient there is a large circle of others also affected. Sutton offers practical advice for the care of the caregiver and the patient, and shares the pain that came as she watched pieces of her husband’s self disappear. Following his death, after what Nancy Reagan described as “the long goodbye”, she writes candidly about coping with her new status as a widow and the aching loneliness of the heart that is the price paid for having known a great love. 100% of the author’s royalties (20 to 40% of the purchase price) will benefit the Alzheimer’s Drug Discovery Foundation/Canada. Cover design by John R. Lewis
Category: Family & Relationships

Homeward Bound

Author : Amy Ziettlow
ISBN : 9780190261092
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Homeward Bound shows that as family structure becomes more complex, so too does elder care, and existing institutions and legal approaches are not prepared to handle those complexities. As 79 million American Baby Boomers approach old age, their diverse family structures mean the burden of care will fall on a different cast of family members than in the past. Our current approaches are based on an outdated caregiving model that presumes life-long connection between the parents and offspring, with the existence of high internal norm cohesion among family members providing a valuable safety net for caregiving. Single parent and remarried parent-led families are far more complicated, fragile, and point to the need for increased formal support from the religious, medical, legal, and public policy communities. We base our analysis on in-depth, qualitative interviews with surviving grown children and stepchildren whose mother, father, stepparent, or ex-stepparent died. Their stories illustrate the profound ways that the caregiving, mourning, and inheritance process has changed in ways not adequately reflected in formal legal, medical, and religious tools. The solutions center on awareness and preparation: providing more support for individual planning for incapacity and death and, even more importantly, creating legal, political, and social planning for the "graying of America" at a time of increasingly complex familial ties.
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Caring Across Generations

Author : Grace J. Yoo
ISBN : 9780814729427
Genre : Social Science
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More than 1.3 million Korean Americans live in the United States, the majority of them foreign-born immigrants and their children, the so-called 1.5 and second generations. While many sons and daughters of Korean immigrants outwardly conform to the stereotyped image of the upwardly mobile, highly educated super-achiever, the realities and challenges that the children of Korean immigrants face in their adult lives as their immigrant parents grow older and confront health issues that are far more complex. In Caring Across Generations, Grace J. Yoo and Barbara W. Kim explore how earlier experiences helping immigrant parents navigate American society have prepared Korean American children for negotiating and redefining the traditional gender norms, close familial relationships, and cultural practices that their parents expect them to adhere to as they reach adulthood. Drawing on in-depth interviews with 137 second and 1.5 generation Korean Americans, Yoo & Kim explore issues such as their childhood experiences, their interpreted cultural traditions and values in regards to care and respect for the elderly, their attitudes and values regarding care for aging parents, their observations of parents facing retirement and life changes, and their experiences with providing care when parents face illness or the prospects of dying. A unique study at the intersection of immigration and aging, Caring Across Generations provides a new look at the linked lives of immigrants and their families, and the struggles and triumphs that they face over many generations.
Category: Social Science

It S Your Move Choices For Senior Living

Author : Gail Lawley
ISBN : 9780989834308
Genre : Self-Help
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Its Your Move is a workbook for those who are contemplating where they want to live for the rest of their lives.. Most books on the market describe your choices, but they do not provide an easy way to compare your choices. This book is an adjunct to those books since it is a workbook with lists that one can use to help make the process of choosing where to live more objective. Children of Baby Boomers may suddenly need to find a place for their parents. They may not be aware of the choices available, let alone the resources available to help them choose the best place - not the cheapest, or most expensive, but the one that will make their parents the most comfortable, with the best care, and thus, the most happy. Many people base their choice for senior living based on the lowest price, or a location near their children. Many don't know that there are month-to-month retirement communities instead of the expensive ones with a large up front fee. There are many books describing retirement finances and retirement communities. In other books the authors describe their personal experiences while living in a retirement community, or when choosing one for their parents. These do not consider the “nitty gritty” for such things as “Does this facility have cable TV?” This workbook contains 33 tables which list the items you need to consider when choosing how and where you will live until the end of your life. There are lists of items to consider if you want to stay in your own home as well as items you need to evaluate if you think you'll move to a retirement community. There is no “right” choice for everyone, each of us is an individual so although staying at home might be right for person A, it might be the wrong choice for person B. The information and lists of questions in this book will guide you through all of the choices available to you as well as the decisions you must make for those choices. No choice will be perfect, but using the lists in this workbook will help you ask the right questions and make the best possible informed decision. Many seniors don't realize that without a life care option, if they run out of money they may be forced to find alternative housing (often for destitute people). No matter how much money you have, the world, your health and your investments can all change.
Category: Self-Help

Elder Care Journey

Author : Laura Katz Olson
ISBN : 9781438460758
Genre : Social Science
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Combining expert knowledge and first-hand experience, a noted elder care researcher confronts the long-distance care of her own mother. For millions of Americans caregiving is the “new normal.” For Laura Katz Olson, a respected researcher of long-term care for the aging, Elder Care Journey chronicles the disruption of her world and how it is upended by the ever-increasing long-distance needs of her own mother. A healthy, Senior Olympics medal winner, Olson’s mother is slowly and steadily incapacitated by Parkinson’s disease and a gradual loss of vision. Thrust into a long-distance caregiving role, Olson finds her previous academic notions about assisting a frail parent increasingly at odds with the reality of the lived experience. In a narrative full of “ah-ha!” moments, tears, sighs, and outrage that will be familiar to many, Olson opens a window into the nursing home and home care industries that consume much in the way of taxpayer dollars, but often fail to deliver quality care. Olson’s personal story vividly demonstrates not only the overwhelming bureaucratic barriers faced by care-dependent seniors but also their beleaguered adult children’s attempts to ensure their parents’ health, safety, and well-being. “After losing two siblings, Laura Katz Olson is left singularly responsible for her physically active and lively mother, Dorothy, a thousand miles away, both young at heart and eagerly bicycling everywhere, but increasingly limited by the normal process of aging. Being an expert on aging and health care, Olson is at first confident as she tries to let her mother ‘age in place.’ More than anyone, she believes, she should know what to do. Shuttling between Florida and Pennsylvania, Olson settles into a crushing routine, and with each visit she finds incremental downward change in her mother’s health. Pulled by daughterly guilt at times, but also a wellspring of love, Olson is frank about the resentment she sometimes experiences. “With a unique perspective that links the systemic flaws in our policy approach to elder care to real-world experience, Olson exposes the challenges we all face or are likely to face. More than a personal story, but nevertheless an extremely compelling one, the book should be read by those confounded and frustrated, and by those without direct knowledge of what quietly repeats itself millions of times a day.” — Miriam Laugesen, Department of Health Policy and Management, Columbia University “In Elder Care Journey, Laura Olson tells the riveting story of helping her aging, disabled mother navigate the system of long-term services and supports. A renowned scholar of aging and long-term care policy, Dr. Olson was nevertheless unprepared for the daily frustrations involved in confronting a bewildering array of obstacles, deceptions, burdensome and repetitive procedures and paperwork, and catch-22s, ranging from the annoying to the downright dangerous. She shows how well-intentioned policies can fall far short of meeting people’s needs, especially for those in greatest need, in a system based on fragmented interests and private-sector profit maximization. Combining scholarly expertise with personal experience, she ends the book with a detailed but highly accessible analysis of the long-term care system and how it could be improved to the benefit of both taxpayers and beneficiaries. This book is a compelling read for policymakers and for students and scholars of health care and social welfare policy, highly recommended for undergraduate and graduate courses. The author’s experiences also provide helpful advice to caregivers on what to expect and how to deal with it, as well as reassurance that they are not alone.” — Christine L. Day, University of New Orleans “If a society is judged by how well it treats its most vulnerable members, Laura Katz Olson, a prominent health policy scholar, demonstrates that we have a long way to go in how we serve frail and disabled elders in need of long-term services and supports at the end of their lives. Olson develops a compelling narrative that describes the subtle and not-so-subtle indignities imposed on elders and their caregivers navigating the complex maze of health and social service systems at their hour of greatest need. Even an expert such as Olson struggled in light of the challenges posed by these impediments. “By connecting her own personal journey to the larger societal challenges within which her struggles are embedded, Olson makes a significant contribution to the literature that should be required reading for scholars, practitioners, and policymakers looking to advance the welfare of the nation’s most vulnerable citizens.” — Edward Alan Miller, author of Block Granting Medicaid: A Model for 21st Century Medicaid Reform? “This page-turner is at once a tender tale of a daughter’s devotion and a stinging indictment of the hugely complex and wholly inadequate American long-term care system. That an elder-care expert can barely navigate the Byzantine web of public and private insurance and services for her disabled mother is alarming enough. Truly horrific are the system’s shortcomings and the increasing role that for-profit providers play, fleecing and even abusing their customers. A startling wake-up call.” — Andrea Louise Campbell, author of Trapped in America’s Safety Net: One Family’s Struggle
Category: Social Science